It is not surprising to hear some of the Chinese girls discussing how much they fancy western men and dream that they could have a western boyfriend or husband. Through western media such as films, TV dramas and music, and meeting western men from travelling, work or school, some Chinese girls find western men more attractive than Chinese men. Girls from cities, an environment with more westerners, have more chances to meet western men. For instance, foreign students who come to Chinese universities or colleges to study always attract lots of attention.
The aspect that everyone considers is the physical side. The facial features of western men are of course exotic to Chinese girls. Their brown, blue or green eyes, straight noses, thinner lips, broad or cleft chins and various types of hair colour, can be extremely charming in Chinese girls’ eyes. For body shape, western men are generally more masculine than Chinese men. They are generally taller, stronger and have thicker bones. The ideal boyfriend or husband for Chinese girls may not need to be muscular, but a masculine appearance is preferable. It fascinates the girls and can give them a sense of security. So is this why Chinese girls consider western men are more their cup of tea? Isn’t it unfair to Chinese men?
Simply an attractive appearance is surely not enough to decide one’s Mr. Right/Miss. Right. The major factors are not on the physical side, but on the cultural side. Western men are quite often to be described as friendly and as gentlemen. In western countries, it is common to see people being kind, to ask someone if he/she needs any help, to greet someone even they don’t know each other, and hold the door if someone is behind. These are really common things for them, but maybe not for Asians due to cultural differences. Every little thing that shows one’s kindness and helpfulness is certainly appreciated by others. Being a gentleman can score highly for a Chinese girl.
As a Chinese girl who has a British boyfriend, I found that it is less embarrassing to talk in English than in Chinese. I feel less shy to say sweet things and express my love. This makes our relationship sweeter. Chinese people might agree with me that saying ‘I love you’ and ‘Sorry’ in English or other languages is easier than in our mother tongue. It is possibly because some phrases in one’s native language sound more serious which makes them said less frequently. Also, in western countries, people are more willing to express their love and share their thoughts to others straightforwardly, while Asians feel shy and less likely to express themselves in front of others. When Asians meet westerners, they might feel easier and less embarrassed to talk to them. It is interesting that communicating in other languages to westerners could bring Chinese girls courage to express their love and their thoughts. The straightforward and open hearted personalities of western men could also bring more sweetness to a relationship.